What To Do About People That Drain Your Energy

Anonymous L has asked a question that comes up for many of us no matter who we are or where we are from. It comes up in our lives sometimes in unexpected moments, at other times we know it's coming and we're not sure what we're to do about it.

Here is Anonymous L's question and after that will follow the answer I have to offer.


Anonymous L's Question:

...I have consciously, yet sadly, left behind some people in my life whom I had allowed to sap my energy. This left fewer resources for my own development and led to depression for me. After a number of months (about 18-20) without these Souls, I must say, I feel more balanced and lighter.

However, I have pangs of regret, sadness, and guilt at times.

In accordance with your (Grandfather) message today: Is it time to move these folks back into my circle?


My Answer:

As a general answer, I would say you'd have to weigh who these people are to you in your life. Are they family? Blood relatives? Are they friends? You have to consider all these aspects.

Then after that consideration you would then have to ask yourself, "Is the likelihood that I will be repeating the energy drain worth it to me or is there another possibility?" If you feel there's another possibility then it will take some considerable work on your part.

If you have people in your lives that drain your energy for one reason or another perhaps they are reaching out to you for your energy or perhaps because of compassion you are reaching to them with your energy - giving it unconsciously, granted.

Then I recommend if you know you're going to be around them to practice for several days before, in advance if you can, focusing and connecting to the sun or to the moon or both. I'd say, in many cases both would be useful but in some cases you might just try one or the other.

My recommendation however though is that the sun has an inexhaustible supply of energy whereas the moon's light is not always as available. You can see that by simply glancing at how much of the moon is showing. If it's 5 or 6 days before the New Moon, the New Moon and 5 or 6 days after then it would be better to pick the sun.

Connect with the sun then and practice that every day for 15 to 20 minutes before you see those people and all the while you're around them try to stay connected with the sun. This will tend to keep your energy up and if they're pulling on any energy they will pull on the sun which can only be good for them.

That's what I recommend as general advice. Goodlife.